Mar 30 2011

Part 4 – What a Woman Must Have in her Online Dating Profile

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by Desert Adventures Eco-Tours and Events

This fourth article is about writing the key aspects of your online dating profile, especially describing what’s vital in your life. Then, any guy reading your profile will understand those areas in which you will not compromise, because vital means just that.


What about children – do you want them, maybe you are already a parent? There are probably drop-down boxes in the site’s profile set-up screen for this, but you may want to say more. For example the man will have to enjoy taking a parental role (and you may have his children round for sleepovers). You could phrase it like this: “until they leave home my children will be central in my life and ideally I want to meet a guy who is closely involved with children of his own, understands and enjoys the challenges of parenthood’.

Friends and Social Activities

Are you a homelover, staying in at night, or are you out meeting people and socialising? Are your girlfriends round with you often? Finding someone compatible with that lifestyle is important; after all, how would you feel if your man was out at a bar or football game several nights a week? Maybe it would suit you, maybe not – some couples have entirely separate social lives – but would it work for you (or him)?


Perhaps you are involved in town politics or an action group – these tend to be driven from deep within the person – then it will be important that you highlight that aspect of yourself. If you are at meetings a couple of nights a week then you need to make that clear in your profile.

Whilst we are on the topic of politics, remember that many couples of different politics can co-exist quite happily, and there are some people who have to be with a partner having a similar political outlook and set of values. If you are one of those people to whom politics is an essential part of life, then you need to say so clearly.

Your Pets

Some people just do not want to live in a house with pets (especially cats, dogs or birds) and there can be good reasons for this – for example, allergies. If keeping your pet is not negotiable then you need to say so in your profile.

Your Career and Relocation

You may have a very demanding job or career, but how will it be if the new man in your life is in the Army (say) and away for 8 months of the year? This is certainly an area to explore very early on. Certainly, if you are in such a career yourself then you do need to make that clear in your online profile. Long periods of separation are not always good for relationships.

If someone works elsewhere in the country, would you be prepared to move – maybe the kids are in school and you don’t want to move? Most dating agencies ask about geographical range so that they can match people appropriately, but there are few people who really want to enter into a relationship with somebody who lives on another continent!


The principle behind explaining the ‘vitals’ in your life is that you don’t want to meet and fall for someone and then find that there is a major problem caused by one of the above (or other ‘vitals’). This approach will help you filter out the unsuitable men in advance. Sometimes, apparently unsuitable people can solve the compatibility problems, but this is not the usual story.

(c) 2010 Phil Marks

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Mar 24 2011

Part 1 – What a Woman Must Have in an Online Dating Profile

Category: Dating Guidesadmin @ 7:44 am
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by Thiophene_Guy

These online dating tips explain about getting the main aspects of your online dating profile right. This is the first of a series of articles, each concentrating on one part of a lady’s online dating profile.

Why bother, you say?

You benefit from clearly describing who you are and the type of guy you are looking for. You immediately cut out all the people who would be of no interest to you (and you to them). It reduces hassle and emotional toll for you. You are investing in your future happiness, so it pays to devote time to the task.

The first tip is about your ‘handle’, more usually known as your User ID.

Perhaps you have already joined an online agency. Did you choose a memorable and intriguing ‘handle’ for yourself?

Think about these handles:

Try and see it from a man’s standpoint – he does a search and sees a list of potential matches like this:















Which handles catch his eye? Which ones will he click on first? Which ones grab you? Which ones give a positive feel and which ones seem negative?

Obviously, if your own style is not that of a Mustang, or fun and double entendres such as with Maggie_May69 do not suit your personality, then avoid such handles (or be prepared to deal with the inevitable silly enquiries you will get). You can always find something that very simply generates the extra clicks on your profile. More clicks mean more chances to find the right person, and the right handle will make sure that your enquirers are more appropriate.

It is quite reasonable to assume that SaraSculptress would really like to meet someone interested in the Arts, ideally interested in sculpture.

‘Mustang_Sally’ tells me that she is probably someone who is a bit headstrong and challenging, but recognises it. Or maybe she drives a Ford Mustang, rides a horse or likes Eric Clapton…

BlondeNotBimbo suggests an attractive lady who wants to be recognised for her intelligence and not her looks. Of course, if you are a ‘stunning looker’ with the intelligence of a professor, then you may want to communicate that another way, such as ‘BookishBlonde’ or just avoid any reference to your hair colour or looks. But then, it pays to advertise!

What about negative messages? How do you think June_so_Lonely comes across? There are two aspects to this.

Firstly, it carries a sense of vulnerability about it, which may not be a good thing to put across: not all men are honorable. Secondly, it might describe someone who is seeing her glass to be half empty. Some men may like that, some may not, but usually a positive attitude works best.

And lastly, what does ScarlettOHara’s handle tell you – is she literary or maybe a film buff. Maybe it says something about her character. Some doubt can be intriguing, and intrigue will generate profile clicks.

So, to sum up, think about your handle. Many sites offer free trial memberships, so you could join a couple of agencies and try a couple of different handles.

Remember, your handle is the leadin to your headline – more about that in the next article!

(c) 2010 Phil Marks

Are you looking for a site specifically aimed at people like you wanting to meet verified mature people, and with a seriously large number of members? Remember, more members = more choice, and more choice means you can be very specific! Over 20 years combined mature online dating experience from Phil and his friends both male and female,

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Mar 14 2011

Must Have Dating Tips – Become the Guy Every Girl Wants to Have

Category: Dating Tipsadmin @ 5:43 am

I would like to share with you a few of important dating tips I have learned from other individuals and from my own experience.

One of the best dating tips that I’ve got is that first impressions are really one of the most important factors in the dating game. If a girl or guy doesn’t like you just on the first take of meeting them they won’t really want to go out with you again. Make sure to brush up and make a lasting first impression. Being punctual is also another important and one of the best dating tips I can give you. Turning up for a date on time is a MUST especially for the one who initiated the date. You don’t want to keep your date waiting that would make a very good first impression.

It’d also be a good idea to start maybe working out a bit. Not to get buff but to keep yourself in shape. Also making an effort to look better and dress well would be another plus in the dating game. Even other people would most likely appreciate and take notice of that; whether or not they are planning to take you out on a date or not. Another important thing to remember is not to act too needy. Give your date some of their own time. This is a huge mistake people do; they always want to know where the person is and what their significant other is up to. Maybe after the first date you could call after another day prior to your date. This way they may be dying to hear from you and then they will keep certain interest in you.

Dating is also a great way to meet new people and get to know old friends. So keep it loose, enjoy it!

Maybe be creative in choosing a place to go for a date and keeping it simple for example a day in a museum or a hang-out in a park. Being yourself as well, is another great tip in dating. Don’t act all “cool” and “suave”, just be yourself! Having confidence in yourself is also a plus in dating. Having that self confidence and being comfortable around yourself and your date will surely help you win her or him over. With no confidence you will not be able to win your date over especially if it’s obvious that you have low self esteem. That is a turn off especially for girls with their guys.

Women need a strong man and reliable man. You will not be able to show her that you are that type of man if you lack self confidence. Same with guys they want the girl to be a strong and confident character but still fragile and a sweet looking girl. If they lack self confidence they’ll just look like a needy, self conscious girl. That is why it’s important to have self esteem for both genders.

Showed these are a few of the best dating tips I can share with you. Hopefully you find these tips very useful in your pursuit to find that special first, or just in your dating game.


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Mar 09 2011

Part 3 – What a Woman Must Put in an Online Dating Profile

Category: Dating Guidesadmin @ 12:10 am
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by Thiophene_Guy

This is the third article explaining how a lady can write the most effective online dating profile. The benefit of a finely tuned profile is that it clearly describes the lady, without any hidden messages; it also succinctly describes the type of guy who is ideal for her. This means that all the men who would be of no interest to her are immediately elimninated. This saves time and money on pointless emailing and dates, not to mention the emotional toll it can take. As an investment in the future, time spent on developing the right profile is time well spent.

Find Our Who You Really Are

List the qualities and interests that you have and that you want your new man to appreciate. Talk to a close friend and get her(/him) to help you with this, as people don’t always see the qualities they have that close friends see and appreciate.

If you are athletic, then you probably need someone with an interest in sport (that is playing sport, not sitting in a bar with a beer watching football). If you are an art lover, then a guy who thinks Salvador Dali is a country in Africa would be probably be a bad bet. I say probably, because many people seek new things from a new relationship. A dear lady friend of mine (who was very much a country girl), became involved with a guy who wanted to learn about hunting/shooting/fishing. Then, when he had his introductions to that country life, then he decided to move on to someone else.

Ticking the Boxes

Many dating sites will have drop-down lists of Interests, Personal Qualities and so on. Use the list that you prepared earlier as a guide. It is important not to give the wrong impression, as that can lead to disappointment all round.

Think about what you might expect from a man’s profile. Do you want him to be truthful? Do you expect to be misled? Most people will ‘varnish the truth’ slightly to give a more favourable impression.

Here’s a case in point: If you know nothing about horses, but really want to learn, then it is fair enough to put Horses as an interest (because this may be a search term a man may use to find suitable profiles), BUT in your ‘bio’ section (the free-from section of your profile where you describe yourself) you must say something like ‘I have had an interest in horses since I was young but never had the chance to get involved with them, so I am really seeking a guy who is closely involved with horses (probably owns one) and who will teach me to ride and share his passion’.

Smoking and Drinking

Other important boxes cover smoking and drinking. In my experience it is not unusual for occasional smokers to say that they are non-smokers. There is no point in this deception, as it soon becomes obvious. Then, the man thinks ‘What else in the profile is not true? Can I believe this woman?’

So, do think carefully about what the boxes you tick, and you will then be more likely to be spending your time meeting guys who are most suitable for you. In other words, ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you’!

(c) 2010 Phil Marks

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